Groundgame34
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- Oklahoma
A friend of mine is in the process of divorce. She is an Asian immigrant who had her citizenship prior to her marriage to a well known immigration attorney. For the first 7 years of her marriage He had her and her 3 children living in a home with no running water or electricity. She did work on and off, sometimes continuing her education other times working part time and taking care of her children and the home, also helping him with his practice at times. After 7 years she got tired of the living conditions and bought a house that had running water and electricity. He obviously was well able to afford to add electricity, indoor plumbing and such but refused to (this was a house that he had built). He stayed with her at the new house but eventually started sleeping on her couch. He was emotionally abusive and controlling throughout her marriage.
After 10 years of marriage he discovered she had been chatting with someone online and filed for divorce on grounds of Adultery. After he filed her daughter came forward about him sexually molesting her her sister. Afterwards he also retaliated against her son with physical abuse. She called CPS and a forensic interview was performed on all 3 children. She filed charges but they never reached the DA. (Keep in mind her husband knows the DA). Her oldest daughter also attempted suicide over it and was admitted to the psych ward at the hospital where she underwent counseling and was released.
She did hire an attorney, but was advised that she wasnt entitled to anything since they didnt have children together. I'm not sure if she interpreted what her attorney said wrong because of her cultural background. She does speak english but gets confused easily. She also has ADHD which can inhibit her concentration and communication at times. He is trying to railroad her and leave her with nothing. He is even trying to take her jewelry and run her dry so she can't afford to fight him in court. He has also bought alot of equipment which she refers to as junk and keeps it on his property. It seems like the majority of it was purchased recently. I suspect he is doing it in order to hide his assets so that she is left with nothing.
I guess the main question I have is about her prior living conditions through the first part of her marriage. Could this be considered as a form of neglect and emotional abuse? I know it could be considered neglect on behalf of her children, but with her being an adult would it pertain to her as well since she relied on him primarily for support? In my mind this seems like an abuse of power and with his knowledge and dealings with immigrants he has psychologically taken advantage of this woman.
Any other advise or insight would be greatly appreciated
After 10 years of marriage he discovered she had been chatting with someone online and filed for divorce on grounds of Adultery. After he filed her daughter came forward about him sexually molesting her her sister. Afterwards he also retaliated against her son with physical abuse. She called CPS and a forensic interview was performed on all 3 children. She filed charges but they never reached the DA. (Keep in mind her husband knows the DA). Her oldest daughter also attempted suicide over it and was admitted to the psych ward at the hospital where she underwent counseling and was released.
She did hire an attorney, but was advised that she wasnt entitled to anything since they didnt have children together. I'm not sure if she interpreted what her attorney said wrong because of her cultural background. She does speak english but gets confused easily. She also has ADHD which can inhibit her concentration and communication at times. He is trying to railroad her and leave her with nothing. He is even trying to take her jewelry and run her dry so she can't afford to fight him in court. He has also bought alot of equipment which she refers to as junk and keeps it on his property. It seems like the majority of it was purchased recently. I suspect he is doing it in order to hide his assets so that she is left with nothing.
I guess the main question I have is about her prior living conditions through the first part of her marriage. Could this be considered as a form of neglect and emotional abuse? I know it could be considered neglect on behalf of her children, but with her being an adult would it pertain to her as well since she relied on him primarily for support? In my mind this seems like an abuse of power and with his knowledge and dealings with immigrants he has psychologically taken advantage of this woman.
Any other advise or insight would be greatly appreciated
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